Excerpts from email I have received in connection to this blog; validation has been it’s own comfort, solace and reward.
I recently found your blog when I Googled old acquaintances. I did not expect to find what I did when I put Edward Shockley into the search bar, but in hindsight I am not at all surprised.
I knew your family when you were young, you attended our church and went to school with my children, Saint Barnabas in Alameda. Your father was often physically aggressive with you and Elizabeth, dragging you by your arms, shoving you or jerking you around. I recall many times when he or your mother would take one of you outside for a beating during mass.
…in hindsight, we all knew you were mistreated.”
“…your father never gave us an explanation for why you disappeared, he always told us to “leave it alone.” Thank you for this blog, and for having the courage to tell the truth about this family.”
“Tim (please share this with Elizabeth too)
…there was never a time when we didn’t know your parents were cruel and probably abusive, but no one knew how bad it was. I saw your dad beat you and I knew that you were very afraid of him.”
…I was and still am her (name omitted) friend, she has had problems all her life because of what your father did, but I don’t know how you and Elizabeth survived going to school where everyone knew what your father did to her.”
I know your mother, now everything makes sense, her version never rang true.”
I worked with your mother, she couldn’t wait until Elizabeth turned eighteen so she could get rid of her legally. It was clear she hated being a mother.”
Ed and Marie are our friends, but we believe every word you have written. As you have so rightfully stated, children do not estrange themselves from their parents without good cause. May God bless you and give you courage as you continue fighting your noble cause.”
….You are a courageous man to tell your story, you have survived untold pain and suffering when you deserved loving and caring parents. There is a special place in Hell reserved for people like Ed and Pat.”
…despite everything, your story is one of hope and proof that the cycle of abuse can be broken. God bless you and your family this holiday season.”
I have never been comfortable around Ed, now I know why.”
Please write a book, people need to understand the connection between child abuse and mental illness, and your story is the perfect illustration.”
…if more people would call out their abusive parents in a public forum there might be less child abuse. I hope Ed and Pat read every word.”
I know your father. He was an arrogant fool not to take the second chance you so graciously offered him, every man dreams of having a son like you. God bless you and your beautiful family.”
I see your father is still a salesman. He’s sold us all a man who in all likelihood does not exist. Thank God for google and your need to be heard.”